It’s Time to Forgive Yourself


Life is full of lessons we have yet to learn. It’s full of mistakes and accidents we’re lucky to grow from. A life without growth is a boring life, isn’t it? We all have goals we’re working toward. And we’ll all screw up a few times on the path to getting there. It’s okay.

Embrace Your Mistakes

We all say things we don’t mean and do things we wish we hadn’t. It’s not a bad thing to have regrets. It’s natural feeling to crave the power to change regrets from the past. But, this is a power we’ll never have. The best solution is to forgive yourself for the mistakes you’ve made. Understand you’re only human. Look for the lesson in each situation. Learn from it, and move on.

Sometimes we might need to make the same mistake over and over again before we finally learn from it, and that’s okay too. We’re all on our own journey, and we all learn and process things differently.

Reflecting on the Past

As we grow older, we grow wiser. All of the mistakes you make and the obstacles you face are what makes you who you are. Forgive yourself for your past, and know you’re stronger because of it. You wouldn’t be who you are today without it. As time goes on, you’ll make even more mistakes and have so many more regrets. And you’ll forgive yourself, and grow into a better person because of it.

For so many years, I was regretful of the way I behaved in high school. My priorities weren’t straight and I had a terrible attitude. This bit me in the butt as I grew older, and I always reflected on my past as “If only I were a better student in high school, I’d be in a much better position that I am in today.” Is that actually true? Maybe it is. There’s really no way of knowing. What I do know is, I’ve learned from my behavior. I actively took steps to work harder, to align my priorities, and to check my attitude. Does anyone actually like the person they were when they were in high school? I’m sure we can all look back and find a few things we could fix. But it’s those memories that have helped me grow into who I am now. So for that, I wouldn’t change a thing.

Keep Learning

In a few more years, I’ll probably look back at myself now and think “Wow. Why was I like that?” Sometimes we can’t help but critique, but don’t be too hard on yourself. We’re constantly evolving, but for the time being, we’re exactly where we need to be. It’s always important to try to better yourself, but you can do so with grace and understanding. Every day we’re learning something new, and every day we’re becoming more in tune with who we are. If you’re working to fix a bad habit or whatever it may be, it’s alright to have set backs. Life is challenging, but remember you’re doing great.

Forgive yourself for your past. Forgive yourself for who you used to be, the words you wish you never said, the relationships damaged, the mistakes made. It’s time to make amends with yourself.