21 Lessons I’ve Learned in 21 Years

Each year we grow older, we grow wiser as well. There is so much to learn about ourselves and the world. Every day of life we learn more and more. Over time, we learn valuable life lessons that better who we are. Over my 21 years of life I have learned many valuable lessons. Here are 21 lessons I’ve learned in 21 years.

1. Take more pictures. The quality doesn’t have to be perfect, you’ll still enjoy looking back on the memories.
2. Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel. Your feelings aren’t something you can control and you have every right to feel the way you do.
3. Don’t waste time on someone who doesn’t value your feelings. Instead, find people who care about you and who are genuinely interested in your company.
4. You don’t need to have it all figured out. Life is a journey and you will figure things out along the way.
5. You will change, and you will grow. Don’t fight it. It’s for the best.
6. You can’t depend on others. People will let you down. The only person you can depend on is yourself.
7. Be yourself whether others like you or not. Those opinions of others really don’t matter as much as you might think they do.
8. Everyone has a bad day, but that doesn’t make it a bad life.
9. If you truly want something, you have to work for it. Not everything comes easy in life. Putting effort into something you want will lead to reward.
10. There are tons of mistakes to be made, and even more lessons to learn. Don’t dwell on mistakes or things you could have done better. Just know for next time.
11. Nobody knows anyone completely. Even if you think you know someone inside and out, you don’t. You have no idea what this person has happening in their head and all the backstory of this person’s life.
12. Always be honest. If something is bothering you, don’t deny it. Speak up. People fear the truth far too much. Honesty is an admirable quality.
13. Expecting others to make you happy will more often than not lead to disappointment. Happiness is a choice only you can make.
14. Figure yourself out before you try to figure out others. Growing up teaches us a lot about ourselves. Learn about who you are and what you are interested before you try to learn everything about someone else.
15. Surrounding yourself with good people will make yourself a better person. It’s important to have friends that give off positive vibes. Make friends who aren’t afraid to be themselves and are free of judgement. Don’t make friends who care too much about what others think and who make you feel bad about yourself.
16. Take care of your body. Eat healthy foods and go for a run. You will feel healthier and happier.
17. If he doesn’t like you for who you are, he doesn’t deserve you.
18. Odds are, whatever is bothering you now won’t be important in a week, so let it go.
19. Even at the lowest of times, just know everything will work out. Somehow, life just has a way of working itself out.
20. Spend time doing what you want to do. Even if it’s an hour of everyday. Life consists of a lot of stress and hard work, but that doesn’t mean we don’t have a right to enjoy ourselves.
21. Stay true to yourself. Don’t let others dictate your life. Be yourself and honor your values.

Each year brings new and exciting adventures that teach us a lot about ourselves. Over my 21 years of life, I’ve learned so much from my experiences. Still, there is so much in this world I haven’t yet seen and that I can’t wait to learn.

A Week Without Washing My Hair

Whenever I tell people I wash my hair every day, I always get a lot of reactions like “you’re not supposed to do that” or “that’s really bad for your hair.” I understand why hair isn’t supposed to be washed everyday. It is recommended to take breaks with hair washes to allow your hair to produce its own natural oils. Sadly, this lifestyle doesn’t work for me. My hair gets greasy and it gets greasy fast. Of course, this is likely because I am in the habit of washing my hair daily, but it sure is a hard habit to break. I hate having greasy hair and I’m not sure how long I can withhold from washing my hair to fix this issue. This little personal problem of mine inspired me with a new experiment. I challenged myself to go a full week without washing my hair. Let’s see how this worked out for me.


I washed my hair Saturday night, leaving my hair fresh and clean for Sunday. Unfortunately, I made the poor decision to go to the beach today which afterwards, left my hair salty and knotty. Overall, I’m off to a rough start.


If I could go back, I would have straightened my hair from the jump. Still, my hair actually came out pretty well despite the second day after a windy beach day. My hair remained sleek and surprisingly, not greasy.


By Tuesday my hair was starting to feel slightly greasy. I dabbed at my roots with some Witch Hazel in hopes to dry it out and pulled my straightened locks into a half-up/half-down pony. Surprisingly, I didn’t need to touch up my hair with a straightening iron at all, as my straight hair had mostly stayed in tact.


I knew putting my hair down this late into the week was a risky move, but I went with it. No regrets quite yet either, after curling my hair, my hair had lots of texture and volume that I quite liked.


I regretted my choice to wear my hair down because I woke up with extremely greasy hair. Again, I dabbed at my roots with some Witch Hazel, and put my hair up into another half-up/half-down pony. This time, I touched up my curls and although a bit frizzy, I thought my hair looked cute and fun.


It is a rare occasion that I wear my hair up, but the grease began to get out of hand and to be too much for even Witch Hazel to fix, so I opted for a pony. I found the ponytail to be great for unwashed hair because my hair didn’t look, nor feel greasy. It stayed out of my face and I don’t think my hair looked all that bad.


Sorry for the shade over my face, but by Saturday I was completely over this. My hair felt disgusting and I was left with no choice but to throw it in a bun because it looked terrible. Saturday after work, I went home and washed my hair, and it was the best I felt in a week.

After taking this challenge, I decided I will never go a week without washing my hair again. However, I realized that I do not have to wash my hair everyday. Since this challenge, I’ve begun to wash my hair every other day. Although I don’t notice any specific changes regarding the health of my hair, I have found that my hair doesn’t get greasy quite as fast, allowing me to skip even two days of washing here and there. Not to mention, I’m saving lots of time and money, so that’s definitely a plus!

Morning Self-Care Routine

It’s important to start the morning off the right way. How your morning goes will frame your whole day, making it essential to start the morning with positive thoughts and healthy food that will provide you enough energy to get through the day. Now we may not have all the time in the world in the morning, but there are a few steps you can add to your morning routine to make your mornings a little bit brighter. For some inspiration, here is a brief summary of my morning self-care routine.

Step 1. Cleanse

Now I begin my morning the same way most people do. I brush my teeth and wash my face. My skin care routine is relatively simple consisting of cleansing, toning, moisturizing, and an eye cream. I begin by cleansing with a Dove Beauty Bar. I prefer this over any face wash because this beauty bar is much gentler on the skin and is great for people with acne (like myself). In face, my dermatologist recommended this to me years ago and I have been using it ever since.

After cleansing, I then spritz my face with my Grace Antioxidant Toner. I just added this step to my routine about a year ago because I thought it was time to add some antioxidants to my routine. Although I am only 20, it is never too early to begin the anti-aging process. I also really love this spray because it doubles as a setting spray. I then apply my CeraVe Face Moisturizer with SPF 30 which is another product I have been using for many years now. It is a great, affordable moisturizer that can be bought at any drugstore that contains SPF. Since it is summer, I recommend applying a sunscreen on top if you plan to be outdoors all day, as although this contains SPF, it is important to protect your skin from the sun’s harsh rays during this time of the year.

Finally, I finish my skin-care routine with an eye cream. This always changes for me, as I have not yet found the perfect eye cream. Currently, I am using the RoC Retinol Correction Eye Cream. Retinol is supposed to be great for lighting dark spots. Although I have not noticed any visible changes yet using this eye cream, I do like the way it feels. It’s very light and sits under my makeup very well. Along with this, a little dot goes a long way making the price completely reasonable.

Step 2. Meditate

If possible, try to wake up 10 minutes earlier to get in a quick meditation session. Lay down a few pillows, sit up straight, and play some calming music. Pick out an affirmation for the day and repeat it in your mind while also focusing on your breath. If you really can’t squeeze in a time to meditate in the morning, try to find some time in your day that you are able to meditate. All it takes is 10-15 minutes of your day.

Step 3. Write in a Gratitude Journal

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Make a gratitude journal if you haven’t already. Every morning, take a few minutes to write down 3-5 things you’re grateful for. It could even be something as simple as being grateful for sunscreen. Practicing gratitude will help you to be more positive even in times of distress. It will help you recall that even in the darkest of times, there is always something to be thankful for.

Step 4. Make Breakfast

They aren’t lying when they say breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Even if you’re not hungry in the morning, or if you don’t have time to cook a large, extravagant meal, eat something small that contains antioxidants. Some of my favorite quick and easy breakfasts include drizzling a bit of honey on some fruit, or eating a fruit and yogurt parfait. My go-to breakfast when I’m on the go is a peanut butter and banana smoothie with almond milk and a tiny bit of vanilla protein powder. This quick and easy breakfast is enough to keep me satisfied for a few hours, and provides me with enough energy to get through the work day.

Step 5. Eat breakfast and Read the News

Sit down and enjoy your breakfast while catching up with what’s going on in the world. Usually, I’ll either skim headlines to see what interests me, or I’ll check out what’s in my inbox using theSkimm. TheSkimm send you everything you need to know about what’s going on in the world in one short post. After catching up with news updates, I’ll see if any of my favorite bloggers have released any new content using Bloglovin’. Follow me on Bloglovin’ here!

Step 6. Get dressed and Go to Work

After my routine is over, it’s time to head into the day. I do my makeup and put on my clothes, and enter the workday with a positive headspace.

I hope you found some inspiration in this post on how to switch up your morning routine to bring in a bit more self-care to create a healthier lifestyle, both mentally and physically. Getting out of bed is tough in the morning, but try to wake up a little bit earlier to add at least one of these steps in if you haven’t already. Good luck!